Sometimes the reason why things don’t work out could simply be due to a bad connection. Actually, poor communication is the reason why many things fall to pieces.
“The definition of connection is that something is linked with another or associated with another or that there is a relationship between two or more things.” And that link, when you have a bad connection, is broken or defective.
I bring this up as I reflect on my last dating endeavour. After a break up we (humans) tend to remember the good parts, which leads us to naturally start missing the person.Your mind will play games on you, analyzing, questioning, all the things… but if you dig a little deeper you see it might only be the routine that you’re actually missing.
It’s the morning texts and the good night texts. It’s the endless phone calls, it’s the sex and intimacy. It’s all the things you get as part of a relationship deal and that includes the connection you have with someone. And of course the first week after a breakup is going to be hard. You are going through the withdrawal of the routine. You are so used to whatever pattern you and your lover have set and we get tempted to send the “I miss you” texts. (Give this feeling a few days to fade.)
So I thought about it, and sure I was missing the connection, but what exactly was I missing? It was the connection we had before we met in person. If I’m missing the connection it has to encompass the entire relationship, not just the good parts. So, looking at the facts, the connection has got to include the vileness of how the relationship was in person. And, let’s be honest, I am not missing that. With that introspection, I can better move on.
SO maybe when things don’t work out the way we wanted them to, we can chalk it up to a bad connection. Dust it off, keep it moving.
modern love 