What are your dating standards?

Let’s take a moment to talk about DATING STANDARDS Sticking to my dating standards during the pandemic has been difficult, or rather, I’ve been lazy. Bypassing the tinder texting phase and almost instantly sharing my phone number, bypassing my social media non-share practices and sharing my online life with a stranger, bypassing the feel-the-vibe-out phone

covid kisses confession

I’ve kissed three people during the pandemic. How many have you kissed? Now before you judge me, just understand that I: am almost 35-years-old am living with my mom was dumped pre-Covid hold questionable career choices It is not a time for me to also be single. And if you ask me, this whole quarantine,

emotional pain > physical pain

I think some people don’t understand just how painful a breakup can be. Often times, friends and family of the afflicted will provide advice like: “you can do better”, “your ex ain’t shit”, “there are plenty of fish in the sea” and a slew of other things meant to help you out. Don’t get me

the recovery process

With exercise, as with in life, it’s necessary to take time-outs to recover. When you’re benching 75 lbs, for example, you must take a rest after 8-12 reps, for at least 30-90 seconds, maybe longer depending on your body. We do this so during the next set, we can come at it from a prepared

Dating during COVID-19

Dating is a way we audition each other for parts. Upon meeting, we sit across from each other and verbalize our wants and needs to see if the other person can and wants to deliver these things to us. Vice versa. We wonder what role this potential new person is going to play in our

the initial spark.

The following is a journal entry written on June 9, 2019: “So i met this guy, he’s super interesting, into the moon and stuff and the way the universe works. He taught me about energy and that our energy transfers from one thing to another and never goes away. He’s interesting, smart, cute. Kisses good.

breakups and pandemics.

In this world with so much going on we forget to reflect and see why things are happening the way they are happening. My psychotherapist urges, “it’s not what’s happening TO you, it’s what’s happening for you.” This is the reason why things unravelled in my last relationship. I lost a grip of myself, who

A Semi-Quarantined Kinda Life

So the days go like this: 8:30 a.m. Wake-up – recite “I am enough” as soon as the latest failed relationship comes to mind. Then think to myself: “No! don’t look at your phone. You gotta meditate first”. 8:31 a.m. – Throw on Chakra related meditation, recite more mantras, focus on breathing, and remind yourself 

The year is 2020…

The year is 2020, and it might as well be the year 2000. Sure I’ve grown mentally, spiritually, physically and so on over the last 20 years, but the root problem still remains. Hi, my name is Vanessa and I suffer from low self-esteem. The same struggle I’ve had all my life and maybe not

Fight song

See. I’m a reformed easy girl. And I know not how to separate my urges from my standards. And I guess that makes me easy. We hang out, we found each other attractive and we went at it, and because I didn’t make him wait to have a taste, and because he didn’t have to wine